Elimination Communication, Potty Training, Toilet Training, Natural Infant Hygiene, Baby Whispering...
There are a number of questions we get asked about Elimination Communication, potty training, toilet training, natural infant hygiene, baby whispering etc.
Here are some frequently asked questions which we get asked all the time. We also do have a very active FaceBook page where moms can ask each other questions and share photos and information.
Most questions are covered in our ‘How to use it’ page or if you have a Baby Throne are addressed in the manual and in the instructional video.
As soon as baby can sit up straight unaided you can start using the Baby Throne, which is at about 4 months. All you are doing is helping baby empty their bowels properly it is just basic physiology and gravity. As a result of this you end up using fewer nappies/diapers. The Baby Throne has received endorsements from paediatricians and a world recognized paediatric surgeon as a valuable aid especially for children when transitioning from liquid to solid foods.
Babies are clever so why wait? You are using physiology and gravity, then routine and reward, no need to wait until they are toddlers to start.
Sorry, at about 20kg the Baby Throne starts to get tight so it would be better to move on to the standard toilet trainers available that simply make the toilet hole smaller. 20kg is the weight of an average 4 year old but if you have a special needs child and they still fit go ahead. We have had great feedback on this. Always be in attendance and do not leave them alone! It is always possible to fall off the Baby Throne even if unlikely.
Yes you can and this number is conservative. Have a look through the manual and the Baby Throne Technique and you can understand how. Remember 40 years ago we were all out of nappies well before the age of 18 months as well! Ask grandma.
Each to their own but is this not being mean to your child?
We recommend warm soapy water or if you want something more aggressive your normal bathroom cleaners are fine too. In South Africa we have a product called Hand Andy that is nice to use but rinse properly. Remember you do not want harsh detergents against your baby’s skin. It is always a good idea to clean new products especially for using with baby because they could be covered in residual chemicals from the factories. Most people even like to wash new cloths before using them on baby.
You save time by using the Baby Throne!! It is also much healthier for baby avoiding nappy rash, infections, testicular cancer in later life etc. Testicular cancer and infertility in later life is being argued at present but common sense tells us those family jewels are not meant to be kept hot! We have proven that on average you save changing over 2200 nappies (diapers) before the age of 2. That is a lot of time saved! All the time you need to start is a maximum of 10 minutes in the morning and the evening.
Fit this in with your routine; brush your teeth or run baby’s bath whilst they are busy on the Throne. When you decide you would like to start having baby to relieve themselves in the day (for example after their sleep) outside the nappy you have weekends to start and then why not ask nanny to do the same during week days? Meanwhile always supervise your baby to prevent injury from falling and never leave infant unattended on the Baby Throne!
I get asked this question many times over. It just needed an engineering mother to be presented with a problem which was simply Hector did not like sitting in number 2 nappies and I made a plan so he could empty his bowels like any normal person and not have to sit in ‘it’. No one told me I was supposed to wait until he was 2 years old before I should be thinking about toilet training.
It was pressure from friends and family that pushed me to take what was then called Hector’s Throne through product development and now able to make what we now called the Baby Throne for other little princes and princesses!
Throughout toilet training, your baby and/or toddler will respond to positive reinforcement. Whenever he moves on to a new step or tries to use his potty (even when he doesn’t quite succeed), tell him he’s doing well and that you’re proud of him. Think of an appropriate reward. In our house a little clap or touching the pretty chimes on the bathroom was fun. Flushing was a HUGE hit. Don’t use food that can start all sorts of problems. Compliment now and then on dry underpants or nappy/diaper. Don’t go over board with praising as too much praise can also have the negative effect of making them nervous and afraid to fail. Always make it fun. It is no big deal if there is an accident.
There will be accidents. Always treat it as matter-of-factly and clean up and move on. It was Hector who used to get most upset with his accidents which could be as a result of teething, not being well or simply getting out of routine. It is easy to get out of routine but just as easy to get back into it again.
Before you even buy a Baby Throne or anything you wish to use it is important to have a plan for the training process itself. There is no point in buying something that will simply sit in the cupboard and no one uses it. Toilet training is a continuous process. It is more about enabling, teaching and handing over plus of course having the right tool for them to be sitting on and feeling nice and comfortable, safe and secure. Be flexible, have fun in the process and don’t expect ‘success in a day’ and to be able to walk away. Articles claiming toilet training in X days and such and exactly what age to start etc read them all if you like and you decide what is best and what suits you and your baby.
Every parent, baby and toddler is different and what suits one may not suit another. It is about common sense, kindness, teaching and helping them to do what they need to do and working with their independence. If baby hates what you are doing back off, leave them for a day or a week and then try again. Don’t force them. Keep in mind however they especially do like to empty their bowels properly and they do not like to sit in ‘it’ so together figure out how best to help them to do this! If you are worried speak to your paediatrician, other mother’s, your mother, friends and decide upon a flexible strategy and share that with everyone else who takes care of your child and make sure they stick to it barring unexpected setbacks of course.
The last nappy/diaper to drop is the one at night. This stands to reason as it is a long time between visits to the bathroom. Almost half of all children still wet the bed at the age of 3. Most child development experts consider bed-wetting normal until about the age of 6, when only 12 percent of kids still wet the bed.
There appears to be a strong family component to bed-wetting: 77 percent of children whose parents both wet the bed as youngsters will do the same. Forty-three percent of children of one bed-wetting parent will follow suit, and only 15 percent of children whose parents had no trouble staying dry at night will wet the bed. I even had a friend who occasionally we the bed as an adult in her late teen years (!). Regardless of how you proceed, avoid putting pressure on your child and don’t punish.
Staying dry all night is a developmental skill and everyone is different. Some advise could be simply cut down the amount of liquids before bed time. A bottle to sleep with is of course going to put pressure on the bladder. Perhaps try and cut down the volume of liquid; do it gradually. Sometimes the child cannot feel the wetness as the nappy/diaper can be so efficient and it simply doesn’t feel wet.
Here one trick to help is try putting on a pair of panties/underpants on under the nappy/diaper so they can feel the wetness and therefore be aware of what is happening. You can also get alarms that attach to the nappy that when it senses the urine wakes up the child. Something to consider. It is helpful to know what is ‘out there’. When Hector was little I used to take him to the toilet before he went to bed to empty his bladder and then again when I went to bed at about 11pm. He never really woke up and certainly made a big difference to his comfort.
I always have a waterproof mattress cover just in case there is an accident. Much easier to strip the bed and throw in the washing machine than expensive mattresses getting ruined as a result of the occasional accident. The accidents were far too infrequent to justify using a nappy plus I did find that particularly in summer he would get very hot and sweaty in that area which we all know for little boys is not healthy!
There is a big argument about the link between testicular cancer, male infertility and long term nappy/diaper wearing and legally the wording has to be very careful. Everyone has an opinion and there has been some excellent research in this area and no matter what the courts and judges argue common sense tells you that those little testicles are not meant to get hot and be kept hot, if they are you are asking for trouble! Nasty chemicals….keep them away from baby. If in any doubt read up on scientific or medical research and ask your doctor.
It stands to reason that the way little girls are made sitting in faeces in that area is not healthy. Of course there is the risk of infections such as urinary, bladder etc infections. Nappy rash is also painful. Rather try and make a plan so your baby or toddler is doing their business into the toilet; especially by the time they start solids and it’s real…
No one knows for sure and there are arguments both ways. Grandparents do tell me that this is the reason why there are so many toddlers running around in nappies/diapers when 40 years ago we were all done with nappies/diapers by the time we were 18 months old.
They do agree that perhaps with all the washing and inconvenience they made more effort to train as soon as they could rather than wait until 2 or 3 years old. However, it stands to reason that with a cloth nappy/diaper it is easier for the baby or toddler to feel wet and therefore far more aware of what is happening than wearing a disposable and not be able to feel the wetness. Of course you can put panties/underpants on under the nappy/diaper so they can feel the wetness.
Another point to make is with respect to our environment. Disposable nappies are not good for our land-fills, nappy mountains are a world wide problem. This is not to say towelling nappies are better; we still have to wash them and that pollutes our seas.
Remember we are not ‘nappy/diaper bashing’ here. What we are saying and telling you is that you choose what sort or types of nappies/diapers to use. Just be efficient with them and finish with them when everyone is ready and it simply becomes redundant. It is far kinder and easier to drop the nappies/diapers when baby has been wearing the same one for a couple of days and it becomes unnecessary and therefore redundant rather than going ‘cold turkey’!
The most important factor to consider when putting a baby or a toddler on a potty or even a toilet trainer is that they feel safe and secure. They must be held and supported on all sides and that magical squat position is what triggers that instinct to ‘push’. However they MUST feel safe and secure. It is not so very important that it is made from a nice soft foam but if possible why not?
he original Baby Throne I made was not soft; I made it from wood, clay, plastic and lots of plumbing tape and it worked like a dream. Now of course the Baby Throne is made from a nice soft foam. However, getting to the point; no one is going to relax, let nature take it’s course and empty their bladder or bowel if they feel uncomfortable, frightened or insecure.
Toddlers are more of a challenge to get them to sit and relax as they can get bored and want to get off. Try all the tricks you know. Bribery works well! Give them something to do. A Gameboy, book, toy etc or in our house flash cards were the most popular and I think Hector simply loved the time he had to simply have undivided attention from whoever it was sitting next to him on the bath. You want them to be preoccupied with what they are doing and then their bodies relax, that magic squat position triggers the instinct to ‘push’ and they empty their bowels. They also empty their bladders as well. And then they simply continue with whatever they were playing with.
Nearly all parents mention this problem at the start and also state that within a very short period of time (minutes, next time they try (just keep with a routine) etc) once their baby or toddler got ‘it’ and made the ‘connection’ they were all ‘going like a Boeing’. This has to be the most common expression I hear when I ask for feedback or how things are going!
These are all toilet training techniques which is the simplest explanation. If you Google any of these words you will get a huge amount of information on these subjects. The Baby Throne is simply the tool that you can use to hold your baby or toddler in the correct position. The Baby Throne is the ONLY suitable tool that is suitable and holds a baby comfortably and safely in the correct position supporting them on all sides in a soft foam. You can toilet train babies, babies are clever! As my husband stated to some raised eyebrows: ‘If you can toilet train a puppy why can’t you toilet train a baby? Babies are much cleverer!’
Babies who have been practicing Elimination Communication (ECing), Baby Whispering, Infant Potty Training or Natural Infant Hygiene (NIH) don’t really need to go through the gentle progression of the Beginner and Intermediate steps of getting onto the toilet in the Advanced stage simply because they are more used to baring their bottoms and going to the toilet. However, there is no harm in starting at the Beginner stage even for just a few minutes and moving on to the Intermediate and finally the Advanced stage.
Interestingly we had a little girl who had exactly this problem. We don’t know why but she was 13 months old and something must have happened. She got the Baby Throne as a present all wrapped up in pretty paper and shown how you can easily stick stickers on the surface.
She took ownership of her Throne. She sat in the Beginner stage a few times and progressed to using the Intermediate stage and used it as a potty for about a week. After this time she was quite happy and actually initiated moving to the Advanced stage herself just before her bath. It was not treated as a big deal but you could see how pleased she was with herself!
The point is that the Baby Throne is a tool. It supports a baby or a toddler from the front, back sides and under their thighs so they feel safe. The support under the thighs is especially important for little ones who may have a ‘fear of letting go’. No one knows your baby or toddler better than you do. The Baby Throne is a tool and you have to figure out between yourselves how to make it fit into your lives. As soon as baby is born they have to ‘go’ properly you are just helping them to do what is perfectly normal/natural and working with their independence.
Out of all the baby gifts we were given this has to be the number one item for me! a real winner.
The Baby Throne is an incredibly durable product with a functional design. It is easy to clean, all enough to not take up to much space and Knox loves sitting in it as it is so comfy! It is also very light so easy to move from room to room. This is not a magical solution for potty training, but it does make it a hell of a lot easier – there are also so many advantages to using the Baby Throne that the price tag is definitely worth it. This product will most likely last you through all of your kids, it is pretty indestructible.
I’ve got my baby throne a few weeks ago in the mail, I’m in Australia! It is absolutely AMAZINNNNG!! I love it so, so, so much and even though people thought I was crazy when I did buy (including my mum and my husband) it’s worked a treat! We’ve always dealt with constipation due to him being on reflux medication and now his going once a day! His 8 months old and doesn’t even want to go in his nappy anymore, only once he sits on his throne!
P.s. You’re a genius for inventing this! It’s brilliant and I wish I would’ve thought of it myself!
The squat position is not only recommended for people with bowel or lower intestinal problems even just constipation – it is required!
Humans are designed to squat to eliminate effectively. Avoids constipation, ends haemorrhoids, prevents colon disease and addresses pelvic floor issues. Modern day living and standard ‘modern toilets’ have attributed to the increase in colitis, colon cancer, haemorrhoids, constipation, appendicitis…all lower intestinal issues. Both infants and adults can suffer from constipation. Babies especially struggle with constipation when they are transitioning from milk to solids which is usually at about 6 months. It is also very common for bottle fed babies to suffer from constipation issues.
My baby was 4 months old and holding her head up by herself and I initially thought ‘its too young’ but then thought ”why not’ she has to empty herself properly and all she is doing is sitting in a squat position with her nappy on (Beginner Throne). She loves it and as soon as I was confident (she was already!) I took her nappy off and ‘viola!’. We are very happy and have the perfect routine! We discovered Elimination Communication all by ourselves!
Funny how one knows that squatting triggers the instinct to bear down but we still need to be told! Only an adult (young healthy one..) can hold that back but only for a limited period. Babies will not hold that instinct back for sure. This also explains why squatting helps constipation.
Love the consideration of catching the little boy’s wee! No one likes that fountain coming at you and the way it is designed the toilet seat stays clean and dry for the girls in my house too. Elimination Communication parents know all about this!
This is the only product on the market that will hold my baby and my toddler nice and safely and comfortably in the right position to go to the toilet. I want one for me! My body knows about Elimination Communication!
My paediatrician held my constipated baby in a squat position on his lap to help him pass his stools. The Baby Throne saves me that cost and helps the constipation like magic. The Baby Throne is doing what my paediatrician was doing. One visit to the paediatrician costs far more than a Baby Throne!
I strongly believe the Baby Throne has given my boy much greater confidence compared to his peers. Understanding elimination communication helped me to understand how to help my boy and the Baby Throne is the tool that held him in the right position.